When I found out about his side chick and newborn, I was devastated. I was sad and mad at the same time. I never confronted him or never argued with him. I just let him be, while I was dealing with it. I finally surrendered, prayed, and let go and let God. Once I did that, I felt the weight lifted off me. Holding on to grudges is never good for us, we must learn to release and let go of the pain. If we do not release that pain, it will destroy us and turn us into a bitter version of ourselves. I learned to never go back and forth with a person who did me wrong. All they want is your attention and energy so don’t give it to them, just starve them of your attention and energy. Do not allow people to disturb your peace. Eventually, they will feel stupid. They played a stupid game, and they won stupid prizes. In the past I did play in their game where I went back and forth and argued, but with this shocking news I did not play the game. I did a lot of praying and I just let go and let God. I had to heal a lot, but eventually I forgave him, for myself so I could move on. I have since released my ex-husband with peace, love, and light. I am my own best friend and I sleep comfortably at night.