After 10 years of marriage, his representative mask fell off and he was showing his true self. His true self emerged when infidelity shattered my trust. His representative hid his deeper narcissistic tendencies. Maybe his true self was showing the entire time, but I did not notice until I got cheated on. He should receive an Oscar, his acting skills are amazing. I am not a psychologist, but I think I married a narcissist. I did not realize this until I was out of the home and getting a divorce. I do not know if everyone has a representative, but I know my ex-husband has one. I hope in his next relationship that he can show his true self from the start. 

While the discovery of his representative was heartbreaking, it also empowered me to reclaim my life. No longer bound by his deception, I am free to heal and move forward. The mask may have fallen, but I have risen stronger and more aware than ever. As I move forward, I can't help but wonder how many other masks I might encounter. This experience has made me more vigilant and cautious, but also more determined to find genuine, honest connections. My ex-husband's representative taught me a harsh truth, but it’s a lesson I won’t forget.